I gave it a whirl! O.K. I did it! Sort of. I actually NEVER met someone I met on Match.com. I just can't seem to get past the ridiculous emails. Men email me and say the wierdest things. I just don't understand. If I'm not going to understand then I'd rather not understand in real life, not cyberspace. I mean why get dressed, take time out, call a babysitter, and go to all that trouble to meet a guy that probably most likely doesn't look like his picture! A whole other person shows up!
I rather BE dressed, BE out, and run into a guy I probably would never date, then actually set up to meet a guy I probably would never date. Does that make sense?
To me it does. I'm not going out on any blind date from a guy I met on Match. I know it works for some people. I'm just not the one! Maybe I watch too many episodes of forensic files. But seriously, isn't it easier to meet a guy in person then look at a 1/2in by 1/2 inch picture of someone and determine whether he's a nice guy or a serial killer? Call me crazy, but I think I can judge a person better as a person and not as a small blurb on a dating site.
For example. There was this one guy on the site. He is physically not my type. Remember I was trying to expand my horizons and not go for looks. This is what the guy said,
I like what you wrote in your profile. Questions- When was your last serious relationship and what happened? What exactly are you looking for? I am in hawaii for holidays. Looking for a good, honest and loyal woman is challenging in California. Xoxo
That's me right?! O.K. so I should have actually examined this email. Looking back I realize that the xoxo ending is kind of immature. xoxo hugs and kisses??? really??? mmmm. I dont think so! Your a stranger! Also he has a really dorky name. Also his profile brags all about himself. But I once again ignored all the warning signs! I sent him an email back and answered his question "when was your last serious relationship". I kept my answer short and to the point. This is how long, this is what happened. I then said something along the lines of, "It's the Holiday season, so I'm super busy with work right now, and Ill email you when I get a chance."
To which he responded, "You snotty b****!" hahahaha! Can you believe that? He called me a snotty B* because I didn't immediately respond to his email. He then SENT ME ANOTHER EMAIL, and told me how rude he thought I was because I didn't respond to him, and how he works with executives all the time and I'm not special! WOW!
Truthfully, he was not the only crazy stalker type I came across! There were other men that were upset I didn't respond right away. Maybe people on Match.com have a lot of time on their hands. I thought that was the whole point. For people that didn't have time on their hands, and didn't like bars so they moved to internet dating?
Anyway. What I found out was if I just get dressed in the morning, do my hair, try to look cute, and smile everyday, men will approach me! I just have to put myself out there. I believe that even if I wasn't cute but put effort in dressing nice, putting on a little make-up, fixing my hair, men would approach me! Men approach women who look approachable! So, enough about the internet dating thing. I must end this by saying, ladies, (or men) If you are looking to find your match, I suggest you put effort into looking nice, and put a smile on your face, and don't be AFRAID to put yourself out there. And yes, you will get approached by some weirdo's. But, you know what they say, "you got to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince!"